Since Rajeed's birth i can't count how many times he has fallen and its gotten worse since he has started walking. He has rolled off the bed, tripped over his own feet, tripped over his toys, over the dogs, other people's feet, u get the picture. The rolling off the bed...my fault, you think when you place all the pillows around him thinking he won't do much rolling at 3 months and then you hear the cries :s So to avoid that i just placed him on the floor on top of his blankets. But then we have him knocking his head on the headboard :s countless times I've tried to tell him to stop but he won't keeps smiling or laughing, but surprisingly when he is by his dad and he hits his head on his headboard he cries down the world but not when he with me... I don't understand. He has had a fall that left him with cuts on his head dirt in his mouth and very loud screaming. other falls he just gets back up and continue on his way. With each one all I ever wanted to do is to rush over to him and console him but sometimes I have to just leave him to let him find me or deal with his mistake and find his way around it. The other day I went to register him at Emmanuel Prep, I had my god daughter and Rajeed with me, the accident that happpened not once but twice...he fell why he kept staring at everything else instead of looking infront of him to watch where he was going lol... Some parents saw and said its how they are just make sure I check to see if he had any cuts and dressed them if they were. I invested in a first aid kit which I carry around with me everywhere especially when Rajeed is going to be with me and bwoy did it come in real handy that day... he didn't receive any major injuries just a bruise nothing an antiseptic wipe didn't take care of :D
His Dad one evening told me to check his foot bottom because there was something stuck in it and he could not get it out. When my mom and I finish operating on his foot we pulled something resembling grass blade... the child had that in his foot bottom for 3 days and never complained. So it showed me I can't be laid back or uptight with him. The joys of motherhood :s
Playtime
Aha the joys of it..lol this morning Rajeed's playtime consisted of taking the newspapers(about 2 months worth) and scattering them all over the veranda and then crawling over them and tearing them apart dwl...wow the clean up I had to do when he went to sleep. His hands and feet were so black. It's funny how we want all the brand name toys and such for our kids when they will play with all the other stuff around the house that if u knew you wouldn't have spent a dime and bought them any toys or buy anything too expensive.
Rajeed loves outside, one day I was in the kitchen and my mom was in her work room so I thought her was with her and she thought he was with me. Before he left me i gave him a biscuit, 10 minutes later he came in chewing so I said to him why u still eating the biscuit only to look closely and the child is chewing on dirt and giving me the biggest smile ever!! dwl. When i carried him to my mom she couldn't stop laughing.
Most days I have an itinerary for him, but some days I allow free play whatever he feels like taking up and playing with as long as it won't hurt him or break I allow him so as to encourage him to discover things.
Friday, April 30, 2010
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Discipline
So today Rajeed decided it was tantrum day...lol what a day it was!! he threw a fit for falling, another for not being allowed to get his own way, another for not being allowed to play with the cord for the computer, another for being prevented form going outside when it was eating time and the list goes on..DWL.
When I realized he was getting into the phase were he understood what was being said and also was exploring more i decided to start flicking him on his hands when he touched stuff he shouldn't at times i would hit him on his hand. I'm not a lover of such punishments but they all came with explanations of why mommy didn't want her baby to touch which I was told I must do in order for him to understand why he was being punished. Feels weird explaining to him but I am getting the hang of it. Now I have even employed time outs, they seem to work a little better than the hitting (thank God!) His time outs consist of me removing him from whatever the cause was and placing him on the bed, it took awhile to get him to stay there but after a few times he got the picture. After he cries it out he would eventually start playing on the bed with either the pillows or whatever books or toys that are on the night stand. After 10 minutes I get him and have a little chat which is me explaining why he was in time out and then we play together.
Last week his aunt and I went to the book store after a little reading session WE got up and walked over to some books I was intrested in. Rajeed insisted on pulling the books off the shelves even when i was telling him no. So after I pulled him away he threw the biggest fit I've ever seen him throw... So i simply walked away while e rolled and screamed when he realize i wasn't paying him any attention and that people were looking at him he quickly got up and came after me. I've seen mothers beat their kids in public if they did something like this but its not right. Kids do things to see what we will do and for attention. Try and be patient its hard at times but it will pay off in the end.
When I realized he was getting into the phase were he understood what was being said and also was exploring more i decided to start flicking him on his hands when he touched stuff he shouldn't at times i would hit him on his hand. I'm not a lover of such punishments but they all came with explanations of why mommy didn't want her baby to touch which I was told I must do in order for him to understand why he was being punished. Feels weird explaining to him but I am getting the hang of it. Now I have even employed time outs, they seem to work a little better than the hitting (thank God!) His time outs consist of me removing him from whatever the cause was and placing him on the bed, it took awhile to get him to stay there but after a few times he got the picture. After he cries it out he would eventually start playing on the bed with either the pillows or whatever books or toys that are on the night stand. After 10 minutes I get him and have a little chat which is me explaining why he was in time out and then we play together.
Last week his aunt and I went to the book store after a little reading session WE got up and walked over to some books I was intrested in. Rajeed insisted on pulling the books off the shelves even when i was telling him no. So after I pulled him away he threw the biggest fit I've ever seen him throw... So i simply walked away while e rolled and screamed when he realize i wasn't paying him any attention and that people were looking at him he quickly got up and came after me. I've seen mothers beat their kids in public if they did something like this but its not right. Kids do things to see what we will do and for attention. Try and be patient its hard at times but it will pay off in the end.
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